The first stage of a dumpers regret timeline starts when they start to think about their ex. Those thoughts may range from wondering if he’s still dating someone else to reminiscing about the time they spent together. It’s possible that they’ll even wonder if they’ll ever meet up again. In some cases, the dumper might even reach out to friends and family in an attempt to reconnect with their ex.
Relationships don’t always end because of huge mistakes. Sometimes, the problems stem from minor issues that are blown out of proportion. As a result, the relationship gets bitter and a dumper ends it as a last resort. These dumpers often break up out of impulsiveness and feel it’s better to leave than to put in the time to make amends. It doesn’t matter how difficult it is to live alone after a breakup, he’ll eventually realize his mistake.
The time of dumper’s regret will vary from person to person
It may occur straight after the breakup or days or even weeks later. Whatever the reason, the important thing is to be happy for your ex and remember that he/she is happier for you. When a dumper has to deal with a dumper’s regret, he/she will most likely regret leaving him/her.
Once a breakup occurs, he/she may wonder if he/she should make a move. Whether or not he or she should try to get back together is a separate issue, but if you’re in a relationship with someone else, you can be sure that they will make an attempt. The process of getting back together should not take too long, as most dumpers will try to do it within a week or two.
In the first few weeks after the breakup,
a dumper may be obsessed with their ex, causing them to feel remorseful and want to contact their ex. This obsession leads to a series of remorseful stages in the dumper’s regret timeline. The dumper worries about whether he made the right decision to end the relationship, but there is no way to know how his ex feels.
The second stage of a dumper’s regret timeline involves mixed messages and a renewed interest in the relationship. The dumper will start sending messages, and will even initiate contact. If he/she wants to reconnect, they should make the first move and try to get back to a positive place. The time will pass and the dumper will eventually see that he/she is able to move on.
The third stage is neutral, and is a good indication of how far a dumper has come in their emotional healing process. After all, he or she can’t regret the hurt they caused. However, if they’re still in the elation and relief phase, they’re unlikely to feel regret. It’s also a sign that the dumper is processing his/her emotions. It’s important to remember that a dumper’s regret timeline begins at an early stage of recovery.
The dumper will be relieved after the relationship ends,
but will also start to wonder why he/she didn’t call them back. This may even lead to a social media stalking of the ex. Oftentimes, dumpers will become obsessed with their ex, and if they don’t hear back from them, they will feel very sad. The dumper will begin to feel that he/she was the right choice.
After the dumper has reached neutrality,
he or she must ensure that his ex has reached a neutral stage by himself. At this point, a dumper will start improving his/her relationship with their ex. They may even begin to wonder about his/her ex’s new relationships. In fact, they may even try to reach out to the dumper for updates. This process will be long, but it will make sure that the dumper doesn’t lose his/her ex forever.
When the two-week mark of a breakup arrives, the dumper’s emotional reserves have depleted. The dumper’s hot-cold behavior exacerbates the pain and frustration he/she feels. Attempts to find validation and security are met with confusion and mixed messages. This is known as the “land of false promises.”